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Healing Shame: Understand and Transform

Presented by Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon, Ph.D, SEP, BCC - 3 CE Hours

Workshop Description:
Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both the inner critic and perfectionism. It binds with and hides behind other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that it is often hard to detect. Shame cannot be worked with in the same way as the other primary emotions. In this presentation, you will become aware of shame as both a primary emotion and a freeze state, which has a profound effect on personal development and relationship success, and we will model how to counter shame in therapy.

Learning Objectives:
Upon completion of this workshop, participants will be able to:
1. Identify the major characteristics of shame
2. Explain the differences between shame and other primary emotions
3. Name the four basic reactions to shame and the characteristics of each
4. Identify techniques to counter feelings of shame
5. Describe strategies to get though shame defenses of over-verbalization, dissociation and freezing
6. Utilize four realms of human experience—Cognitive, Somatic-Emotional, Imaginal and Interpersonal—to create optimal distance from shame
7. Identify differences between healthy shame and toxic shame
8. List six characteristics of healthy shame.